I'm guessing you are referring strictly to the real table video in the first clip to the same in the 2nd? Because obviously since the second was done with a high speed camera for slo-mo, the effect is going to be more pronounced.
When we first got this in beta, the effect was indeed too pronounced as a lot of ball energy was absorbed. 2 days later we got the fix and in my mind it felt right. Of course this all is very subjective, and I wish there was a way of having say 3 different models of physics for us to test, all slight variations from each other, and then see if there is a consensus. Just to be clear though, do you feel it looks wrong as well as plays wrong, or is it just one of those?